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Trust Your Intuition in Dating


In the world of dating, many women often overlook or second-guess a powerful tool: their intuition. This inner voice serves as a subtle yet profound guide, helping to navigate relationships with clarity and confidence. Many women come to me in therapy seeking to connect with their inner knowing. Trusting your intuition isn't about being paranoid or overly cautious; rather, it's about tuning in to your inner wisdom and allowing it to guide your choices. Here's why listening to your intuition is essential when dating and how you can harness this innate ability. My goal is to help you to trust your intuition when dating.


Understanding your intuition when dating
Woman tuning into her intuition when dating

The Science Behind Intuition

Intuition is often described as a gut feeling or an inner knowing that seems to come from nowhere. Scientifically, intuition is thought to be the brain's ability to draw on past experiences and external cues to make a quick decision. It's a form of subconscious intelligence that synthesises information faster than our conscious mind can process. It is an internal wisdom that can stir from within. It should not be ignored.

Research suggests that women, in particular, may have a heightened sense of intuition. This could be due to a combination of social and biological factors, including heightened emotional intelligence and greater sensitivity to non-verbal communication when compared to men. When we look at this through an attachment lens, we can see that your nervous systems are working on a subconscious level, providing feedback to your environment and the people you are dating.


Why Intuition Matters in Dating

  • Protecting Yourself: Intuition can be a first line of defence against potentially harmful situations. If something feels wrong, it often is. Trusting this feeling can protect you from emotional or physical harm. Often, if we have anxious attachments, sometimes we want to be in a relationship so much that we may ignore this internal warning due to fear of the person not liking us or abandonment. 

  • Authentic Connections: Your intuition can help you identify people who are genuinely compatible with you. It enables you to sense authenticity and sincerity in others, which fosters deeper and more meaningful relationships. When you have an anxious attachment style, you might find yourself trying to shape your behaviour to fit what you think your date will like rather than being true to who you really are. This can create a disconnect between your true self and the persona you present to please your date.

  • Avoiding Red Flags: Often, the early signs of a problematic relationship are subtle. Your intuition can pick up on these red flags before your conscious mind can fully articulate them. However, if we struggle with insecure attachments, we may easily ignore these warning signs due to our desire to be liked by the other person. For example, a red flag such as 'love bombing' can go under the radar. This can lead to prolonged pain and hurt instead of addressing the relationship issues at the first warning signs.



understanding signs of intuition when dating
understanding signs of intuition

Recognising the Signs of Intuition

It can take time to tune into what your body is trying to let you know. Listening to your intuition begins with recognising its signals. These can manifest in various ways:

  1. Physical Sensations: A feeling in your gut, a racing heart, or a sense of unease can be your body's way of telling you something is off. Our body often knows what is before our brain. If you notice any physical sensations when dating, tune in and try to gauge what it is trying to let you know.

  2. Emotional Responses: Pay attention to sudden shifts in your mood or emotions when you're with someone. Unexplained anxiety or discomfort can be significant. These emotions are often on a subconscious level. Tune into the emotion and ask yourself where you have felt it before.

  3. Inner Voice: Sometimes, intuition speaks through thoughts or an inner dialogue. Trust the quiet voice that tells you something isn't right or that urges caution.


How to Strengthen Your Intuition

The more you tap into the wisdom within it, the more you will learn to trust in it. Here are 3 ways to help strengthen your intuition.

  1. Mindfulness Practices: Engage in activities like meditation or yoga that promote inner peace and help you tune into your body and mind. When we are stressed, our nervous systems can be heightened, making it harder to listen to our bodies. Slowing down with mindfulness can allow the necessary space to be present with what our intuition is trying to tell us.

  2. Journaling: Write down your feelings and experiences. Journaling about physical sensations, emotions that have arisen or internal thoughts helps you go deeper into your internal wisdom. Reflecting on these entries can help you recognise patterns and intuitive insights. This process helps you uncover old relationship wounds that show up in the dating world and navigate them more effectively.

  3. Trust Small Decisions: Start trusting your intuition in small, everyday decisions. This practice can build confidence in your inner voice, making it easier to hone in when more significant insight comes up.



Mindfulness practices help you listen to intuition more effectively
Mindfulness practices help you listen to intuition more effectively

When Your Intuition Meets Logic

While intuition is powerful, it's important to balance it with logic and reasoning. Use your intuition as a guide, but also gather facts and communicate openly with your partner. Here's how to achieve this balance:


  1. Verify Feelings: If your intuition is signalling a warning, take time to observe and gather more information before making a judgment. For example, where does this feeling come from? Can you recall the first time you have had this feeling?

  2. Open Communication: If you are dating, discussing your feelings with your partner can help you gain clarity. Honest conversations can either confirm your intuition or provide clarity and reassurance, especially if you have an insecure attachment style. We can be hypersensitive to fears of abandonment, which can sometimes be clarified by healthy communication.

  3. Seek Outside Perspectives: Sometimes, talking to trusted friends or a counsellor can provide an objective view and help you decipher your intuitive feelings and your logical thoughts. This may provide you with clarification and knowledge of your next steps.


Empowering Your Dating Life

In the journey of dating, your intuition is a powerful ally. It empowers you to make decisions that are aligned with your true self and fosters a sense of inner confidence. Trusting your intuition doesn't mean you won't make mistakes, but it ensures that you're listening to your own needs and protecting your emotional well-being.


As you navigate the dating world, remember that your intuition is a gift. Embrace it, trust it, and let it guide you toward relationships that resonate with your heart and soul. The more you listen to your inner voice, the more attuned you will become to recognising and embracing the love that is truly meant for you. 


If you find it difficult to use your intuition in dating and often attract the wrong type of partner, counselling can help you tune into your instincts, gain clarity, and ensure you are on the right path to finding someone compatible who will provide you with the love you deserve. You can schedule a free consultation to determine whether you'd like to collaborate. To learn more, please visit my website or give me a call.

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Jessica Jepson
Counselling

Tel: 0420 202 673
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jessicajepsoncounselling@gmail.com
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80-82 Keilor Road,
Essendon,
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